I cannot remember a time when I haven't been worrying about something regarding my child:

  • Not gaining weight
  • Lymph node on her hip
  • Various skin rashes
  • Sick twice a month for months
  • Constipation
  • Stuttering
  • Intense shyness
  • Eats next to nothing

I feel like I've aged ten years in the three she's been alive. Luckily my wife is there to say, stop worrying, she's fine...but I don't know if I can take a lifetime of worrying. Does this ever get any easier? What makes it easier?

asked 05 Aug '11, 03:02

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Haha, my wife bought me the Mr Worry book :)

(11 Aug '11, 08:55) Benjol

My personal experience, if it helps. Two things helped me to stop worrying about my toddler:

  • remembering that anxiety is just one side of the coin. It comes from the love I have for him. If I focus on the love part of it, the anxiety is easier to deal with.
  • having his little brother -- I just don't have time to worry anymore! It also helps make it clear how independent he really is. And I'm less worried about the baby because I've been through it before.

My worries tended more towards littler things, like, is he getting enough sleep? Am I spending enough time with him? Etc.

EDIT: I forgot to add that I am taking antidepressants for more generalized anxiety/depression -- I bet that helps, too. If the anxiety is interfering with your life, don't hesitate to see a medical professional!

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answered 08 Aug '11, 10:55

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edited 08 Aug '11, 11:03

The short answer: It depends on the person.

The not-as-short answer: A lot of what you have described sound like things that, if they really concern you, you should bring up with her doctor. If they really are nothing to worry about he can set you at ease.

If you are the kind of person who tends to not worry, then eventually you will probably outgrow this. If you are the kind of person who frets over ever little thing that is out of your control, you will probably be worrying about her for the rest of your life. I'm 30 and my worry-wort dad still freaks out when I go on a road trip (even though I spent a semester of college on another continent).

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