My 13month old son goes to bed about 8pm and recently has been waking up at midnight (almost on the dot). At first we thought it was because he was teething because he recently had 4 teeth come in all within a couple weeks of each other. Now that all 4 teeth are in, he has continued to wake up regularly and we're frustrated. We've let him cry for about 20 minutes sometimes, but it's more screaming that crying and he stands up while he's doing this. If I go into his room it takes me about 30 seconds or less to put him back to bed by holding him and laying him back down and then he goes right back to sleep.

So my husband obviously is voting for me to just put him back to sleep, but for me it's annoying to wake up and go do this and I keep thinking....how much longer? Is this a phase?

I'm wondering if we should just buckle down and let him scream it out a few nights in a row, although our main worry is that he'll scream for an hour and end up waking up our daughter who is in the very next room.

I know there is probably not a "right" answer, but any suggestions might help us decide what to do.

asked 18 Oct '09, 06:35

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One of my daughters (age 6) does this and has her entire life. As near as we (and our doctor) can figure, she experiences night terrors. Your son's experience sounds familiar. My daughter thrashes about as she cries and screams, so my main concern is to make sure that she doesn't fall off her bed or otherwise hurt herself. Holding her doesn't seem to change anything; sometimes it makes things worse.

I'm working on a theory that the trick to shortening them is to wake her up somehow and the most successful route I've seen is to keep asking if she wants some water. After several tries, she'll often suddenly say yes and so I go get her some water, she drinks it, and then goes back to sleep.

(As far as waking your daughter, one of my other daughters (6) sleeps in the same room and never wakes up for them. I am constantly amazed at what kids can sleep through.)


answered 18 Oct '09, 08:07

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When our little one was 13 months, I recall something similar. It was as you say more or less at the same time. It was frustrating not knowing the cause, and also having to get up.

I used to check to see if her diaper was wet and if that was the cause, sometimes it was and I would change her and she would go back to sleep easily. We couldn't work out how she would just wake up though. One night we decided to keep watch and see whether she was having a dream and if that was the cause.

Infact it turned out to be the pacifier, (she used it when falling asleep) that fell out of her mouth, the comfort of not having that to suck on woke her up. We solved this by making sure she did not fall asleep with the pacifier, anymore. She still continued to wake up but it was more sporadic. Then we started waking her up after four hours, giving her some water, changing her diaper if needed and putting her back to sleep ( as bbrown also mentions )

The waking up and crying ceased, and only occured very seldomly and I guess that was our little one having nightmares or night terrors. By 15 months I remember that we put her bottle in the side of the crib, and she learned to drink water when she was thirsty. That really helped us. Good luck!


answered 18 Oct '09, 14:43

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