There is no doubt that the recent event in Newtown Connecticut has left us all with invisible scars that are deep within. The very sad and tragic event that will not easily be forgotten has left me asking myself questions. Is there anyway I could be more vigilant, more aware of my surroundings and the people that exist in those surroundings. I ask myself whether our lives have become so busy that sometimes we do not see things that are directly in our paths. The tragedy of Sandy Hook has left me thinking a whole lot about the idea of community and the purpose it should serve. I think about my responsibility as a parent and a member of a community and about all the things I can try and do to make things easier all around. I am not sure where you draw the line, but I think that being more alert, vigilant and genuinely more caring may be a step in the right direction

I send my deepest condolences to all the families who have lost their most precious angels.

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I know this is not exactly what you asked but the Traumatic Response Team experts and Psychology Department at our school board put out this memo based on research. It discusses how to talk to children but also points out that we need to emphasize that these things are rare and most children with never experience something like this in their lifetime.

(18 Dec '12, 15:36) Tammy ♦♦

I agree totally with your points Tammy and it is true that these are really rare incidents, but for some reason even though I know and acknowledge the rarity of it I just keep thinking that would it not be more helpful all around if people could be a little more vigilant alert and if so it could make these things even rarer...

(18 Dec '12, 15:55) Emi

I agree Emi it may make a difference if people were more helpful and considerate in general. I'm just not as optimist as you. Although it makes me sad for a number of reasons I believe there will always been mean, inconsiderate people.

(21 Dec '12, 10:29) Tammy ♦♦

I think the shooting has disturbed everyone. It's unthinkable.

I like to remind myself that it's exceedingly rare. On the other hand, I think putting our kids in the car is by far the most dangerous thing they're exposed to, since the frequency of being in a car literally multiplies the risk factor. Regarding being aware of your surroundings, I try to make sure I'm focused as much as I can on driving defensively, not just when our kids are in the car, but particularly so in that case. I think that probably has the best payback for time invested.

Incidents like Sandy Hook remind me how little control we have over some events in our life. It would be nice to have some reason to explain to ourselves that our children will be safe, because we do something differently, but that seems unreasonable in a case like this. Unlikely things do happen. The only comforting thought I can come up with is to point out how absolutely unlikely things like this are to happen to any particular individual. :(


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