The school called Child Protective Services because a 14 year old girl said in school she likes to feel orgasms. During their 1st visit, after CPS heard her talk about sex, they scolded the girl in a firm authoritative voice while making eye contact telling her: "SEX FOR ADULTS! REPRODUCTION IS FOR ADULTS! SEX CONVERSATIONS ARE FOR ADULTS! MS. DOE-SMITH (SCHOOL TEACHER) IS AN ADULT AND MADE AN ADULT DECISION TO GET MARRIED! YOU ARE A CHILD! I'M GONNA BE MONITORING YOU FOR 60 DAYS IF YOUR BEHAVIR DOESN'T CHANGE, WERE GOING TO HAVE PROBLEMS."

Then they sat down with the parents at the dinner table. While talking, they scolded the mother firmly because the mother "encouraged" her daughter by telling her that in order to have sex, you need to eat healthy, exercise and prepare your body. They told the parents that it was a mistake to put a computer in their daughter's bedroom and they should have put it in a common area so everybody can see the screen. The family has 2 computers, one located in a secluded office, another in the girls bedroom.

When they asked the parents about behavior issues with the girl, the father stated that the girl doesn't open the bedroom door when knocked. They said remove the lock from her door. They told the girl sternly "You think about negative things. I want you to think about something POSITIVE". One of their definitions of "positive" is what she wants to be in her future. They asked her to think about that what she wants to be in her future, what career she will choose. In another visit, they said they would be coming back in 2 weeks but came back in 3 weeks. In 3 weeks, the social worker said "I gave you THREE weeks to think about what you want to be. Do you want to be an architect, a teacher, a lawyer?" The girl was sitting by her bedroom computer. The CPS worker said "I hope you are not having those sex conversations with your friends." Then the worker asked to see her internet history and then her Facebook page.

The worker gave the parents her cell phone number and said sternly in front of the daughter "call me if you have any problems with her".

They told the parents parenting advice to call the school every Friday to see how the girl is doing since the school; might only inform the parents of major issues. They did this without the parents asking for this advice.

Was CPS, the parents or the child wrong? What would you do if you were the parent? What would you do if you were the girl?

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asked 05 Jan '13, 23:49

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I honestly don't think anyone is at fault. I am very surprised that CPS would get involved with something so minor, must for a low incidence area?

(13 Jan '13, 13:10) Tammy ♦♦
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Asked: 05 Jan '13, 23:49

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