My girl is turning two soon and I was wondering if you have any good tips regarding discipline?

She has a tough time going to sleep some nights and others she goes to bed by herself. Same with eating dinner.

Any tips would be lovely. Thanks

asked 20 Sep '09, 17:36

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Is your daughter still in a crib?

(26 Sep '09, 06:04) Melissa 1

No she doesn't.

(27 Sep '09, 15:37) Ólafur Waage

My daughter also has days where she goes right to bed and other days where she complains. We've established somewhat of a routine and then also added her kissing and saying goodnight to everyone and everything on her way to bed. She kisses daddy, then the picture on the wall, her high chair, the corner of the wall, etc. Very silly things until she's all the way into her bed. We also turn out the hallway light and don't turn on her bedroom light as we take her to bed so that way she knows it's bed time. She still sometimes complains, but I agree with the comment above and think it's part of being 2 where they don't want to miss out on anything.

For food I notice that when I restricted snacks before dinner AND drinks she eats more of her dinner. I have a freind who doesn't allow one of her daughter's to drink until after or mostly through her meal because she fills up on her milk and won't eat her dinner.

We also eat as a family and we also all eat the same food (unless it's not child friendly like tougher meats such as steak and then I have a smiliar alternative). I also have recently been turning off the tv (my babysitter while I make dinner) well before dinner because she seems to be easily distracted by tv/toys during dinner.


answered 21 Sep '09, 22:50

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Great answer, thank you.

(27 Sep '09, 15:38) Ólafur Waage

My best tip is to hold the lines firm. Once you make a rule, follow through to make sure it's obeyed. Love and limits make the best parents. It's a hard balance, but worth pursuing.


answered 30 Sep '09, 17:32

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Once the children know the expectations, they can deal with it. It's when things are always in flux that you get the tantrums. Generally.

(30 Sep '09, 23:55) bbrown

I think that children that age do not want to miss out, and therefore fight tiredness and refuse to sleep. I would recommend a routine, not strict but interactive, such as having a quick splash in the bath, she can help carry her pyjamas and her comb and so fourth. The washing routine will help her understand that it is bedtime. If she has naps during the day, try reducing the length of the naps. Take time to sit and calmly stroke her forehead or hold her hand, without pressuring her to sleep quickly.

Regarding food, I always believe that children eat when they are hungry and not pressured. Our daughters high chair was at the table while we ate dinner with my husband, so while we ate and joked we did not realise that we were actually showing our daughter that eating was a fun thing, so when we sat down to eat with her we observed that she enjoyed the sensation of sitting with us and eating at the table. She would eat whatever was cooked that day without any problem. I have trouble understanding parents who run after children with spoons of food, as this can have the reverse effect. If a meal has been skipped try to avoid giving snacks or biscuits to compensate.


answered 20 Sep '09, 18:44

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edited 21 Sep '09, 06:13

Here's a clip on Conscious Discipline:

I have the book, but haven't gotten to it. This was helpful for me.

Here's something I just found. Might be of more immediate help:


answered 22 Sep '09, 05:50

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edited 22 Sep '09, 06:44

I think it helps if bedtime is a really enjoyable, but calm routine. Our bedtime routine goes

  1. Bath (all the children in together, so not as calm as it might be)
  2. Brush teeth, get PJs on (older children expected to manage this without parental assistance, except when very tired)
  3. Stories
  4. Lights out and bedtime music (for the older two, aged 5 and 7)
  5. Lights out and bedtime milk (for the 2-year-old)

As you can see it gets progressively calmer. I'm not sure the bedtime music is a brilliant idea, but it works for ours (it's Chopin Nocturnes, for anyone who cares).


answered 23 Oct '09, 13:05

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My first advice for fighting almost any stubborn child behavior is: stick to a rigid routine. You'd think since I write this so much that our house must be run like a military base, but far from it. But when a problem does arise, that's the first line of defense to try.

The other big thing I believe in for regulating napping and sleeping is the need to regulate energy. This involves keeping meals an appropriate distance from nap time and likewise for snacks and sugar. Exercise, apart from being intrinsically good for a child, is a great way to get them tired. Don't get them too wound up right before bed though. Keeping the pre-bed/pre-nap time filled with only calming activities can help also.


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