How does one deal with the issue of death and or the sudden loss of a loved one?

asked 21 Sep '09, 17:35

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How old of a child are we talking about?

(21 Sep '09, 22:59) Sabrina

Between the ages of 4 and 7 years.

(22 Sep '09, 06:39) Emi

I would make sure that you're honest, whatever you do. That doesn't mean you have to be brutally honest, but I wouldn't shy away from the truth. Kids have amazing memories, and when they learn the truth later, they're unlikely to appreciate any white lies told to make things easier for you.

Every child will react differently, but I've found that mine have been remarkably matter-of-fact about accepting death. Fortunately we haven't had very much experience of it in the family, but there have been a few incidents, and I've been impressed by the maturity they've shown.

Obviously if it's someone very close it's going to cause more distress - but at the same time, it would be harder to use a "person X has gone away for a long holiday" type of white lie.


answered 22 Sep '09, 12:45

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Nice answer. Looks like you are continuing in your domination of all Stackoverflow-powered sites :)

(23 Sep '09, 23:34) Brandon
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