Which type of parent are you?

  • I'm not going to repeat my parents' mistakes
  • I just hope I can do as well as my parents did
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asked 24 Nov '09, 14:02

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In between, I try to do what they did ok, and I try not to repeat what I consider they did wrong.

There's no black or white I think

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answered 24 Nov '09, 15:02

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My fiance and I come from very different family situations. He was raised by his father alone who did a great number of things I would never do. My parents are still together and still raising the rest of the 12 kids. :)

While I will probably take more lessons from my parents than my father-in-law, I think there's plenty to learn from both sides. For example, he had a policy of not using baby-talk and always using proper grammar. Due to that, his children quickly learned to speak properly. I agree with most of what my parents did, but I do not intend to be as strict about certain things (like movies) as my mother was.

I'm happy with how John (my fiance) and I both turned out, so our parents certainly did something right. :) I will probably employ many of their practices.

p.s. 3 weeks until baby Layla arrives! :D

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answered 25 Nov '09, 04:15

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+1 for not using baby talk!

(25 Nov '09, 17:15) Dinah

Although there are some specific things that my parents did that I don't want to do, I definitely just hope I can do as well as they did.

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answered 24 Nov '09, 14:04

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I hope to have the relationship with my kids, that my brother and I have with our mom. And what I'm not taking from my parents, I'm pulling from my in-laws. They did a great job with my husband and his siblings. And I had my MIL say that she's glad that her grandkids have me for a mom.

(24 Nov '09, 18:11) mkcoehoorn

I think my parents did a pretty good job raising me. So do my parents. I hope to be more humble.

There are also some areas I plan to focus on more than they did, like teaching my kids how to use money properly. It's taken me a while to get that figured out as an adult, and I still don't have it down pat.

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answered 24 Nov '09, 17:11

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edited 24 Nov '09, 18:45

Both of our sets of parents did a phenomenal job with the limited resources they had. It's pretty hard to compare since we are coming from different places, though.

I was raised by a very large family where church played a (very positive) and active role, and we are atheist/non practicing, and also live far away from family.

We both grew up with families who had extremely limited resources, and we are not worrying in that respect.

So, we have some different challenges, but we've gotten from both sides how important honesty is (my husband's wonderful example, and my wonderful counter-example), how important love is, and how important it is to do things simply and smartly.

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answered 24 Nov '09, 18:42

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BOTH! There are many things they did very well that I pray I can handle with as much grace and wisdom as they did, AND also many things that I want to do quite differently (often reflecting that I have in many areas different values and lifestyle preferences than they do).

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answered 25 Nov '09, 03:39

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Yes, I do hope I can do as well as they did, and I hope I have learnt enough to not make the same mistakes.

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