So I was one of those mom's that wanted my newborn baby to take a pacifier since it helped him sleep better at night (unless he lost it). But now that my child is going to be two soon, he has become obsessed with sucking on it all throughout the day. I try to only make it for bedtimes but when he is crying in the car or screaming out in public, it is just easier to give in and give it to him. So I want to try to wean him off the pacifier. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to wean him of the pacifier or how to make the process easier? Oh and he also has a blanket, which I am perfectly fine with him having, it doesn't hurt anything!

asked 27 Sep '09, 03:30

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I am kinda nervous about this too. It'll be interesting to hear these answers. My son is 13 months so maybe I have time to intervene before he gets too addicted. Right now I think he may be on the verge, maybe I should try stopping now?!

(28 Sep '09, 08:21) Sabrina

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We told our daughters that they could only use it when they were sleeping and held firm to it. The key is that if you're firm and consistent about it, they'll adapt (but not without a considerable bit of fussing). Each of them when they turned four had to mail their pacifiers off to another baby to use. That send-off helped them, as did hearing the doctor tell them that they had to stop using their pacifiers by age four or their teeth might get crooked.


answered 28 Sep '09, 17:41

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Some friends of ours tried a little trick - they told their kids that a local store (Canadian Tire in this case) had a special deal on where if a child brought in all their pacifiers, they got a free toy. The parents chose a cashier who looked old enough to have kids (i.e. the 16-year-old high school student may not have worked) and explained why they were there. The cashier played along and everyone went home happy.


answered 30 Sep '09, 22:26

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A similar trick worked for us. We mailed the pacifiers to other babies instead.

(09 Oct '09, 02:58) Ates Goral

In our case the first step was to use it only for nighttime. This was a little painful, but probably not as painful as taking in entirely away immediately. The second step was much, much easier then - when she was 18 moths, we just took it away and said that it's broke down and had to be disposed. It took literally 2 nights to get her off the pacifier (and she is not the type that adapts to changes easily).


answered 03 Oct '09, 20:40

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With my daughter, we chose to move her to a "big girl bed" about a week before her 2nd birthday (not on her birthday, in case she found it traumatic). We had both the crib and toddler bed set up at the same time. We told her that the rule was "no doo doo in the big girl bed" so the first night she stayed 1/2 a night, then chose to finish the night in her crib, with her doo doo. The next time I had to go reassure her a few times but she didn't choose to go back in her crib, and by the end of the weekend it was mostly a non-issue. We wanted it taken care of before her baby brother arrived 3 months later (although he never took a pacifier after all). Having said that, we had worked for a little while to hide the pacifier during the day whenever she was distracted and lost track of it.


answered 03 Oct '09, 18:42

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doo doo? That is unfortunate.

(11 Oct '09, 16:57) MrChrister

Our daughter had gotten to the point where she only used it for bedtime or if she got hurt. We started pulling it out of her mouth in the morning saying in a happy voice something like "you don't need that anymore, you're a big girl". We weren't too strict at the beginning, but gradually got a little stricter. Finally, when she moved to her big girl bed, we did the same thing and told her she didn't need it at all anymore. She was fine with it. One time she found it on her own and slept with it, but we took that one the next morning and she hasn't asked for it since. She even helps give her baby brother his now and it has never been an issue. I think most kids want to grow up, so easing them into it telling them that big kids only need it at bedtime or don't need it at all helped a lot.


answered 09 Oct '09, 20:34

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Both my daughters had them until they were 3yo, largely because I wanted to put off the inevitable! But in hindsight, both times, getting past the "hard part" was not as hard as I had imagined.

What helped me was getting them used to the idea that pacifiers were for babies, and they were "big girls" now. We also discussed that there were babies In Need - babies from less fortunate families who couldn't afford pacifiers, and we set a goal date.

On the big day, each marked an envelope with the imagined baby's name, put the pacies in them, and we walked to the mailbox.

Then we celebrated with a special meal.

In both cases, I had two or three difficult nights, but each time, I reminded them about how their action helped a new little baby, and that helped.

Good luck. You'll see, it's never as bad as you think it will be.


answered 19 Oct '09, 02:56

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We're in pretty much the exact same boat. Our son will be 2 in just a few weeks, and he's pretty much addicted to his pacifier. I agree that it can be very difficult, as sometimes that seems like the only thing that will calm him down. What we've been doing lately is only giving it to him at night, and then only when he specifically asks for it during the day. When we do end up giving him one during the day, the moment he puts it down, we try to stealthily pick it up and hide it until he asks for it again. Slowly he has been starting to ask for it less and less, and we are hoping that will continue until he only needs it at night.


answered 27 Sep '09, 04:32

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We had the same problem with both our boys, but we made kind of a big deal about the "rule" that when you turn three, you don't need the pacifier anymore. Then on (or near) their third birthday, we made a big ceremony of having them gather up their pacifiers and drop them in the garbage (then we collected and hid them later so they couldn't go back and get them).

Our older son adapted quite quickly and seemed proud to be a big boy and not need it anymore. The younger one had more issues, but they were resolved within a few weeks.


answered 30 Sep '09, 10:54

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I will state in advance that I have not actually done this but it was advice from a friend when I was worried about giving a soother with the idea of having to one day take it away. My friend started by poking a hole in the soother to prevent good suction. She then cut off 1/2 cm at a time from the end of the soother. When the soother was down to the plastic holder her sons both lost interest and disposed of it themselves. I am unsure of any potential danger associated with altering the "soother integrity" but she swears by this method. Good luck.


answered 28 Sep '09, 21:03

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We first limited his pacifier usage to bed-time only. The exception was that when he was really upset during the day and other distractions weren't helping, we would lend him one -- to be taken back at the first chance.

To completely wean him off, we used a trick similar to the one Graeme mentioned; we told him that we would soon be sending the pacifiers to smaller babies who needed them. Mom and son put the pacifiers into a big yellow envelope (addressed to my sister's house), rode their bikes to the closest mail box and sent them away.

And that was the end of it.


answered 09 Oct '09, 02:56

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