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I am 29 years old and want to start a family this year. I am already bit nervous since having child before the age of 30 is proclaimed to be the best practice. But I just discovered that I will be crossing 30 very soon. What are the complications can I face starting by family at the age of 30-31?

Secondly, I got a blood test done and have low RBC count. Is this a matter of serious concern?

asked 07 Jan '10, 09:35

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Here are some answers to a similar question that could be helpful and informative for you.

First Pregnancy in the 30s

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answered 07 Jan '10, 10:44

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Being nervous and stressing about getting pregnant is a surefire way NOT to succeed. You have to relax and let it happen.

We got our son at the age of 31, no huge problems there. It's not a matter of concern until you hit the age of ~35 according to current information.

Regarding the RBC: In our country, there are recommended Vitamin pills you should take if you are trying to get pregnant, during pregnancy and thile breast feeding. These contain enough iron and other necessary things to help you get better blood values. (I am not a MD; please consult with your gynecologist if you have further questions)

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answered 07 Jan '10, 10:23

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edited 07 Jan '10, 16:37

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+1 for your first sentence. I think the same applies as you continue being a parent :)

(07 Jan '10, 10:45) Emi
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I realize this doesn't speak to pregnancy complications, but my dad was 31 when my brother was born and 33 when I was. He did advise us to start having kids younger than he did, but that was because he was finding that due to health problems, he was having trouble keeping up with us in high school and college. My mom is 7 years younger than dad so age during pregnancy was not a concern with her.

(07 Jan '10, 15:02) mkcoehoorn

@mkcoehoorn - my parents said the same thing to us but more like "we won't be able to keep up with our grandchildren if you guys don't hurry up and give them to us"!! ha ha

(08 Jan '10, 02:51) Lin

After years of infertility, we had our first child through ICSI IVF when I was 35 and my partner 34 - see my answer to a similar question Emi referred to above

Women hit their peak fertility between the ages of 20 and 24. The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority's Your guide to infertility states:

"At 35 you're half as fertile as when you were at 25; at 40 you're half as fertile as when you were 35". This means that it can suddenly take much longer to get pregnant when you hit your late thirties or early forties and you may have problems conceiving at all."

(Referenced from Monash IVF) As women become older, the chance of becoming pregnant is lower, the chance of having a miscarriage is higher and there is an increased risk of chromosomal abnormalities in the baby. As men become older, the chances of achieving a pregnancy are lowered to a lesser degree than in women, as sperm generation continues throughout life. Women, on the other hand, are born with a finite number of eggs and do not produce any more during a lifetime.

(Referenced from BabyCenter) As women get older, there are a number of factors that can make it more difficult to conceive. In addition, as we age, our general health can decline. Existing conditions may worsen or new illnesses may develop, which can impact on fertility too.

  1. Ovarian reserve - this is the number of functioning follicles left on the ovaries. As you get older you have fewer viable eggs left; in cases of early menopause, the eggs run out much sooner than usual.
  2. Menstrual cycle - as women approach the menopause their menstrual cycles can become irregular and shorter.
  3. Lining of the womb - the endometrium may become thinner and less hospitable to a fertilised egg.
  4. Mucus secretions - vaginal secretions can become less fluid and more hostile to sperm.
  5. Diseases affecting the reproductive system - some conditions can damage the reproductive organs as time passes, or worsen if not treated properly, including endometriosis, PCOS, and chlamydia.
  6. Chronic illnesses - some illnesses can have a negative impact on fertility.
  7. Weight problems - being overweight or obese can make it more difficult to become pregnant.

However, don't be discouraged!! Overall, the risks faced by women over 35 during pregnancy have been exaggerated. Most pregnancies for women in this age group are uneventful and have a good outcome. Many recent well-designed studies have shown that in healthy women, the absolute risks of delaying pregnancy are low, even though being over 35 is associated with an increased risk of certain pregnancy complications. This is partly because it’s not just your age that matters; your health before you conceive matters too. That's good news, because it's something you can control.

In our case, the timing wasn't right for us and we couldn't have had our baby in our 20's as we were busy setting up our careers and hadn't met each other yet! For me, I was waiting for Mr Right - and I finally found him!

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answered 08 Jan '10, 00:58

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We had our first/only child when my wife was 40. No problems at all, and we're extremely happy that we waited, both because we had more time to enjoy life as a couple and establish our careers, and also we honestly feel we are happier, wiser, and better parents in our 40's than we would have been in our 20's (or even 30's), and that more than justified a little bit of extra risk.

EDIT: I want to be clear that I am not denying the extra risks associated with older pregnancies. But usually it's 35 that's cited as the beginning of increased risks (though still pretty small), 40 when it is really appreciable. If you are going to start soon, you need not worry about whether it's precisely 29, 30, or 31. Nothing magically happens on the day of your 30th birthday that changes things.

See also this link: http://www.babycentre.co.uk/pregnancy/antenatalhealth/ageandpregnancy/.

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answered 08 Jan '10, 01:26

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+1 for waiting until the time was right - we did the same. I sure our parenting style would have been much different if we were a lot younger and financially, we can also now afford to give our daughter the very best

(08 Jan '10, 02:41) Lin

I had my daughter when I was 34. She is absolutely fine. Most of my friends have had their children well into their 30s. It makes sense to talk to your doctor/midwife about your concerns.

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answered 07 Jan '10, 17:02

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Our daughter was born just last month. I'm 34 and mommy is 37... neither of us thought we could have children but one vacation later... surprise! :-)

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