I'm quite sure that it isn't normal and I'm not sure if it's okay.

asked 05 Apr '10, 22:11

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How is (s)he getting the bottle? Is (s)he demanding one & getting it or is (s)he taking it from a younger sibling?

(05 Apr '10, 22:17) Kate

And is your concern re: drinking from the bottle, drinking the contents of the bottle or both?

(05 Apr '10, 22:19) Kate

My concern is the "drinking from the bottle".

(05 Apr '10, 23:00) Randell

She's demanding it from her mom.

(05 Apr '10, 23:00) Randell

More info: she's demanding it before going to bed.

(05 Apr '10, 23:01) Randell

+1 for questioning "the drinking from a baby bottle" at that age.

(06 Apr '10, 06:58) Emi
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You count yourself lucky not to be breastfeeding :)

(06 Apr '10, 12:40) Benjol
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Just tell the kid 'no' and refuse to give one. 8 years old is way past time to be weaned, in my opinion.

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answered 05 Apr '10, 23:59

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+1 I agree with "No" I think at 8 years old, you should be able to explain you reasons too.

(06 Apr '10, 06:49) Emi
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@mkcoehooorn, that was my knee-jerk reaction too, "tell her no, and suck it up," but then I remembered how much 3rd grade suuucked, and realized that this little girl probably had enough on her plate without something that could probably be solved pretty painlessly with a reward being done the hard way with a flat "no". (I also had someone tell me recently that whenever I wanted to tell someone to "suck it up", to check my compassion reserves, which has been factoring into pretty much everything I do lately. I'm apparently a lot nicer 'cause people are looking at me funny!)

(11 Apr '10, 03:37) Neen
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@Neen, There is a difference between "no" and "suck it up." I'm not saying you shouldn't have compassion or that your answer needs to be harsh, just that the child should hear a negative response to the request and that the parent needs to stick to that answer and not give in to any tantrums.

(11 Apr '10, 17:50) mkcoehoorn

@mkcoehoorn, I know, sorry, I meant to come back and say this wasn't in any way an indictment of your answer, which is a totally valid way of handling it, (but, you know, kids, life, etc. and I plain old forgot) I was just trying to explain why I may seem a bit more, I dunno, maybe "soft" on stuff lately. Believe me, tantrums around here get butts set in chairs until everybodies tempers are back under control. (and I tend to be the queen of "because I blood well said so, and I'm the MOM!" which is why MY Mom told me to check my compassion reserves. youch.)

(12 Apr '10, 07:12) Neen

Oops, huh? I'm betting that this was one of those "She'll give it up when she's ready", things that's gotten wayyy out of hand, (shrug) happens. Don't be too hard on yourselves, with school-age kids, every time you turn around somethings gone haywire.

Well, it's not "normal", but really, what is? Basically, it's harmless if it's not affecting her dental health, but if it's upsetting to you or your wife, it should probably stop.

I have a 9 year old step-daughter, and one thing I know is that she's smart as a whip and infinately open to negotiation (read "bribery").

I'd probably open with a sleep-over with her best friend and escalate to a slumber party, with movies and makeovers and sleeping on the living room floor in sleeping bags, with 2 or 3 of her best friends if she trades the baby bottle for a more socially acceptable water bottle, or cup of water by her bed (if the water-bottle is too close to the baby bottle for your comfort, but it is socially acceptable and a pretty good transition).

And then get her to help pitch all of the baby bottles so everybody knows there's no going back.

Good luck.

(Oh, and I always said "I Would Never Bribe My Kids" before I had kids. Sheesh, I was a nitwit. It's a useful tool, but one you have to be carefull with, because it dulls quickly with overuse.)

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answered 06 Apr '10, 03:49

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+1 for moving the debate away from the 'good/bad' categories.

(06 Apr '10, 10:15) Benjol

If you're concerned about the drinking the contents of the bottle (breastmilk or formula) perhaps try explaining that these are just for babies and that older kids get lots of other stuff that babies can't have (whether it be juice, chocolate milk, pop etc.) Just play up that being older has its benefits.

If you're concerned about drinking from a bottle, I would remove all access to bottles. You could try using a straw or something like this as a transition.

Edit: If she's demanding it, then don't give in. Offer her some milk in a cup, but that's it.

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answered 05 Apr '10, 22:30

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+1 for explaining why.

(06 Apr '10, 07:20) Emi

I guess my reaction is: What's the problem, exactly?

If my (five-year-old) son refused to drink except from a baby bottle ever, anywhere, then that would be one thing, because it's not really socially acceptable.

But if it's just once a day, before bed, I'd figure that if it helps him/her get to sleep at night, who cares? Later on, as the kid gets older, going to slumber parties or other overnight things, I'd guess that the behavior will go away on its own.

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My concern is 3 to 4 full size avent bottles per day with strawberry syrup or chocolate syrup crowding in approx 2 oz to make the 20 + oz bottle taste good. Why too much milk according to food groups and not enough solid healthy foods to add daily is a problem. Mamma I think is the 1 pro vs a lot of cons reguarding the demanding moody kids (twins 7 1/2 yrs old) for a bottle. They have good teeth but one has premature signs of crowding teeth and speech issues that if kids his age were to know about the baby bottle, I am afraid of his anxiety disorder that a pediatric dr has proven over and over since he was 2 yrs. And my daughter is 54 inches tall with a creeping 110 lbs. So she is being picked on for "fat" and my son is isolated for his hard to understand speech. I feel alone and to approach my wife in a fashion to stop this has already and will seperate us, division them against me.

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My concern would be the amount of sugar versus the amount of milk. Would a pediatrician discussing proper nutrition with your wife, and the negative affects of so much sugar be a possibility.

(14 Nov '13, 14:07) Tammy ♦♦
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