Our daughter has always been a bit of an anxious, slow to warm up kid. She just started daycare and is doing pretty well. Although she doesn't cry when I drop her off, she's is much more clingy now when I'm with her. I felt like she was just starting to get over her anxiety but it's coming back again. I know that some separation anxiety is normal for her age but I'm hoping someone has some suggestions or strategies to help us prevent it from getting worse.

asked 16 Sep '09, 12:24

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edited 18 Sep '09, 00:11

Just show her how much you love her!! I use to work in daycare and the best thing to do is to continue to tell her goodbye, give her a hug and kiss, and tell her you will be back after work and then leave....I know it is hard to do, but they will get over the crying much more quickly if you don't hang around. If you stay, then you will start staying longer and longer each day, and the crying will get worse.


answered 17 Sep '09, 20:35

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Thanks Betsy. That has been our approach from the beginning. I guess you are right and we just have to be consistent and wait it out.

(18 Sep '09, 00:12) Tammy ♦♦

Patience is very important. I found that creche attendance from 20 months onwards really helped our toddler develop social skills and confidence early on. We were told at the creche that they had their own particular way of dealing with toddlers who cried, and were adamant that we should not wait around too long. However we waited everyday for a period of one week, until she was comfortable and smiling whilst waving us off. The waiting lessens each day. Talking slowly and explaining that you will be back later really did work for us and we still see the benefits today as she runs into class and hugs her teacher each morning. We have stuck to this pattern for summer camps and for the new nursery she now atteneds.


answered 20 Sep '09, 09:33

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I'm not familiar with creche attendance, could you add some sort of link?

(20 Sep '09, 12:16) Tammy ♦♦

Creche Attendance = Daycare or Nursery ( hope that is clearer )

(20 Sep '09, 19:06) Emi

Ah, that makes sense. Thanks.

(21 Sep '09, 10:55) Tammy ♦♦
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