Our son turned 3 March 23rd, and he is exhibiting very strong reactions to things that may be embarrassing. For example, he won't talk or look at us if we show him a silly picture of himself that we find cute or adorable. He grunts at us, looks like he feels shameful and runs away. He does this if we give him a new toy he really likes, and also if he meets people for the first time / or when they come over to see him. My husband and I do not react this way to the same situations, so I am thinking it is possibly just in his genes. My husband's family struggles with anxiety and agoraphobia to varying degrees, and my side suffers from depression and axiety to varying degrees. My husband and I have some traits similar to our relatives, but we try to manage them and work on ourselves so we improve. Does anyone know how we can help him not become a "loner" and what to say to him to help him deal with the anxiety / embarrassment emotions? Thanks!

asked 22 May '10, 22:23

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I haven't experienced what you're experiencing, but I believe you should consider talking with your health care provider about your options. Learning ways to work through these types of issues is much easier when young than waiting until temporary behaviors become habit.

They will likely refer you to literature or a child psychologists/therapist who will not only evaluate and possibly treat your child, they will also give you the tools and knowledge to understand and help your child yourself.

It may merely be a phase - many kids I've known (not my own, interestingly) through this age range seem to have a period of pronounced shyness, even with adults they are comfortable with. It doesn't usually last long.

However, with your family history and the level of this behavior, it's probably worthwhile discussing it with a professional.

Even if nothing is or can be done now, a baseline evaluation can be performed which can be used by later professionals to see how your child's development is progressing, and how best to approach it. Often it's not the behavior itself that is a red flag, as every child is different and changes constantly. It's the direction of the change in behavior that takes place over time that gives the best indication of issues to be addressed.

Either way, your health care practitioner should be able to help, or set your mind at ease.


answered 25 May '10, 15:59

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