I've a two year eight month old toddler. He still isn't speaking much at all.

Having said that he's made a lot of progress over the last 3-4 months and is no making an effort to repeat things he hears.

He seems to understand a lot more of what is being said then he vocalises. However he often just ignores things if they don't suit him to pay attention.

He's been going to a speech therapist who referred him to a paediatrician, when we met them in the hospital a couple of weeks ago (it was the paediatrician's first viewing of him). The paediatrician said he fulfils the criteria for being in the autistic spectrum. This was a blow to me even though it wasn't a shock. I'd long suspected that that may be the case.

She's going to refer him to two psychologists, an educational one and a behavioural one.

However I live in a very small country and I'm not sure that the support for properly teaching these children is here.

To compound matters my wife suffers from depression and often can't cope with the toddler. I feel very lost and don't really know what to do next.

Anyone got any ideas what I should do?

I'm happy to supply further background information if its required or helpful.


asked 27 Nov '10, 14:25

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+1 Welcome to the site,I really wish I could help more. The answers to this earlier question may prove to be useful to start off with. http://moms4mom.com/questions/2746/resources-for-parents-of-children-with-autism-spectrum-disorders

(27 Nov '10, 14:57) Emi

@Emi Thank you I'll look there.

(27 Nov '10, 15:41) ad

You need help, though I guess that's not news to you.

Is there any extended family or close friends who can look after your son from time to time? To give you wife some breathing space. Because by the sounds of it she needs help too; is she getting it?

Learning as much as you can about autism isn't going to change your circumstances, but it will help you to feel more 'in control'. Check out the resources Emi quotes in her comment, and continue to ask any questions here.

Oh, and don't forget to 'let off steam' sometimes - all this stuff is terribly serious and intense, you'll go crazy thinking about it 24 hours a day. Carry on loving your son as much and as best you can, rejoice in the small things.

Hang in there.


answered 29 Nov '10, 07:01

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edited 30 Nov '10, 14:16

+1 Such a nicely worded answer!

(30 Nov '10, 11:35) Emi

I hope that you were able to find some more help and information since I posted the comment to your question. Since then I have spoken with the lady from my neighbourhood (who I mention in my answer in the link I shared with you) She was very adamant that "Play Therapy" could play a very important role in all your lives, particularly at this stage (regarding your little sons age)

She also thinks that the delicate balance of dealing with children who fall somewhere in the Autism Spectrum requires an enormous amount of patience, and dealing with that whilst in the midst of a depression can be very very trying, and at your sons age the tiniest little signs of progress and comprehension could very easily go undetected. (Is your wife receiving any help in dealing with her depression?)

(She asks whether your son attends any kind of play group, and if so whether any observations have been made, prior to seeing an educational psychologist)

If you have access to a library , perhaps you could take out some books, particularly the one written by Julia Moor (note: Her son Robin was diagnosed with autism at two; he is now a 'high functioning' bright and sociable eleven year old) and do some intensive reading, so you are better informed prior to your appointments with all the different therapists and psychologists that you may be scheduled to meet.


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