I am tired of putting a meal in front of him and him not wanting to eat it. All he wants is what I posted in the title. I feel like if I give into him and feed him those items instead of what I put in front of him that he will know that if he doesn't touch it he will get his way. He is 2 1/2 going on 3 in April. I really don't want a picky kid but i know most of what he is eating is good for him. I just really wish he'd eat what we prepare for him instead of what "he wants". Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
asked 09 Dec '10, 22:47
Oh my god have we ever been there!
The long and short of it is you can't force him to eat what you want him to eat.
Here are some things we do/did (our son is 3 3/4 and still has lots of food likes and dislikes, which seem to change daily)
I try to accommodate him as much as I can (for example he doesn't like food and sauce together - such as mashed potatoes and gravy - so I keep them separate, another example is he prefers raw veggies to cooked ones so when we have carrots I give him baby carrots raw instead of cooked...). In the event I want to cook something I know he won't like (such as the nights I'm craving Chinese food or an Indian curry...) I plan something different for him from his list of "go-to foods". I try to make meals that he's historically enjoyed, I even asked my other mom friends for their kids' favorite foods, to try the same things here. Winners include mashed potatoes, thick sliced ham, meatloaf, spaghetti (sauce on the side), chicken noodle soup...
If he insists he won't eat what we're eating even after we try to do what we can to accommodate him, we encourage him to taste his food anyhow (no obligation, he can spit it out back on his plate if he does not like it). On occasion this will encourage him enough to eat it and he finds that he likes it.
We used to offer him a single "alternative" meal (peanut butter and jam on bread) if there was a chance he wouldn't like what we're having, but now we ask that he sits at the dinner table with us for the duration of the meal (til everyone is done), whether he eats or not. Sometimes he eats, sometimes not. Usually if he does not eat, we save his meal up in the fridge, then when he plays the "I'm Hungry" card at bedtime, we can just put him back in front of his dinner and 9 times out of 10, he'll eat it then without any argument.
A couple of other things we've done are:
Best of luck...it can be tough.
answered 10 Dec '10, 01:35
Melanie gives really good advice. I just want to add that sometimes my picky eater is more willing to eat something, particularly meat, if we offer a sauce for him to dip it in. Sometimes we give him ketchup or steak sauce, at other times it is applesauce.
answered 10 Dec '10, 19:22