I've had a live-in nanny for the past three months. I'm hearing a lot about tipping at least one week's pay. However, it's hard to believe that my nanny will be getting a $400 gift and that my mother will be getting a $100 gift. I mean, will there be "chatter" among the other nannies about their holiday tips? I'm thinking $75-100 maximum. And it's not that I'm cheap, but now that we're down to a single salary AND paying a nanny . . . it's all a little much. Perhaps things would be different if she had already been with me for 2+ years, and I wouldn't have to post this! Who knows!

Looking for a little insight on the situation.


asked 19 Dec '10, 00:48

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(19 Dec '10, 02:26) Tammy ♦♦

I think the answer to this question depends on how you see the nanny fitting into your future. If this is someone who you forsee keeping around for years to come, then I could see it as resonable to lean more towards a generous holiday bonus now, only because it will be more than a year before her next one.

If it were my wife, she would say the typical holiday bonus is meant to happen after a year's worth of work. So she would probably say give her 25% of a week's salary since she's worked a quarter of a year. Then I would counter and say let's give her 50%-75% because she's going to be with us for a while and she's doing a good job. As you can probably guess, we've had many conversations like this.

Also, I wouldn't worry too much about the "nanny chatter." While I believe it's true that most nannies are extremely open with each other about their salaries, bonuses, and benefits, you also have to consider that our current economic climate (and I don't just mean the US but the world at large) should make most people pretty appreciative simply to have a job.


answered 19 Dec '10, 22:32

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+1 Nice advice, I think it is smart when both partners play a part in the decision.

(20 Dec '10, 07:17) Emi

Not really an answer to the question itself I guess, but if the extra pay is a problem because of monetary issues, maybe this is not a good time to have a nanny? As I understand it, a nanny is useful if both parents work but you want personal one-on-one care for your child. If your wife is staying home why have a nanny at all? Of course you didn't say anything about the circumstances, so maybe your wife is ill so she can't take care of the nanny etc. In that case, I guess the nanny should be understanding of your situation (if she's a good nanny) and be OK with "less" extra pay.

I know it may sound a little like I am judging, but as you mention monetary issues, maybe this would be the real solution.


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