My daughter wakes often at night and leaves her room and while we are sleeping. She will either watch t.v., eat, or drink. She is almost 6 and still wears a pull-up for bed time. When she goes to school in the morning and has been up for a good part of the night, she gets in trouble at school a lot from being over-tired. Also, when she gets up to get a drink, she usually will wet her pull-up. This makes bed time toilet training hard. I thought of putting a lock of some kind on her door, like a door-knob cover, but am afraid that will hinder her toilet training. What do I do? HELP!
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I don't have any personal experience with a 6 year old, but have you talked to her about how important her sleep is and let her know that when it's night time, she needs to stay in her bedroom and rest. If its a matter of her learning when its ok to leave her bedroom this clock may be a helpful teaching guide.
As for the potty training/drink issue, can you put a potty in her bedroom for her to use when she needs it and a cup of juice?
Another idea would be to try to set up a reward chart with stickers for her. Set a small goal with her and let her put stickers up on her chart whenever she stays in her bedroom (and keeps her pullup dry) for a whole night and then let her have a special treat whenever she reaches her goal. Whenever she reaches a goal, keep adding more and more days to it until she stays in her bedroom at all times. This has worked very well for my 5 year old niece who doesn't like to sleep in her bed :)
answered 15 Jan '11, 05:23
I don't think that locking her in her room is the answer, it will definitely interfere with potty training (by age 6, I think she should certainly be able to go pee by herself at night as needed, unless there are other factors that you didn't mention).
It sounds like the real problem is that she's doing this while you are sleeping. Maybe you could try using a baby monitor or something to make sure that you wake up when she is doing these things, so that you can make sure she stops before she is up all night. Also, how is she getting to a TV? If it's in her room, try taking it away so that the temptation is not there. If she is getting up to eat, maybe try having a bedtime snack before she goes to sleep so that she does not wake up hungry (just be sure to have her brush her teeth afterwards). As far as getting up for a drink, this only seems to be a problem because she doesn't get up to go pee in the toilet at night. We always put 1/2 glass of water on my son's bedside table in case he wakes up at night and is thirsty (esp. in the winter, the air can be dry, and it's nice to be able to have a sip of water a night as needed).
Best of luck, it sounds like a frustrating situation.
answered 14 Jan '11, 12:43
I wouldn't put a lock on her door, as it will make her bedroom seem like a scary place for her if she's unable to escape (imagine how it would feel to be locked in your house and unable to get out) and that's unlikely to be helpful in the long run.
I agree with the suggestion to provide a cup of water (perhaps a water bottle, so she can't accidentally knock it over in the night), but so long as she's eaten a reasonable meal before bed she shouldn't need anything to eat and you probably want to minimise exciting alternatives to sleep, such as eating.
Can you unplug the TV to make it difficult for her to watch?
Don't panic about the not being potty trained at night thing. Our eldest was late sorting out night times - and was still wearing a pull-up at 5. I think she is just one of those people who do not produce enough of the anti-diuretic hormone. It may be worth not allowing her to have anything other than water to drink in the evenings, so that she is only drinking to thirst and is less likely to fill her bladder. But other than that, don't worry about it, it'll come eventually.
answered 21 Jan '11, 20:08