Do you think it really matters to a girl if she is dressed in blue or if a boy is given a pink truck to play with? Do you think this is more about the parent's comfort? If you raised a newborn to accept all colours as non gender specific it would ever occur to them that pink is a girl colour and blue is a boy colour? I have a girl and everyone gets her pink everything from clothes to teddy bears to toys and it drives me a bit nuts to be honest.

asked 01 Oct '09, 13:15

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I also had an allergy to pink. When my daughter was born, I hinted to family that I wanted to dress her in a particular way. I stuck to my guns despite all the pressure and am proud of the outcome. My motherinlaw would purchase pink dresses, with flowers and bits and bobs, and each time my heart would sink. I could never get a word in edge ways when the subject of her gifts arose. I was told that I had no right to dress my little one in such boring colours and that children needed to be colourful and girls needed to look like girls.

As hard as it was I continued on my own personal crusade, stripey breton style t-shirts in navy and white, red and white, dresses in navy or in red and so on....

Why did I do this? I grew up in England and have always believed that a child should look like a child and not like a mininature person from a fashion shoot.

The result is this, a five year old who is individual and dresses for comfort and is not obsessed with the pink barbie princess culture that is shoved in our faces. It is her that shines and not the clothes.


answered 01 Oct '09, 20:03

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You give me strength and hope.

(16 Mar '10, 03:00) Phil

@Phil Thank you, thats such a nice thing to hear. I am so glad that some of my personal parenting experiences can be helpful to other parents.

(16 Mar '10, 14:08) Emi

While I have no objections to pink, I +1 as this is how every parent should be - letting their child(ren) shine.

(29 Apr '10, 21:53) Lazlow

@Lazlow Actually I used to be quite fond of pink and I guess the allergy stems from the exasperating Barbie culture, and the marketing tactics seem to have had the reverse effect on me!

(29 Apr '10, 22:44) Emi

We dressed our daughter in blue all the time because we waited until birth to find out the gender and told people to err on the side of a boy when buying gifts.

My son likes to go after my daughter's pink tractor.

They really don't care about the color that much. It's mostly a parental/societal thing that boys should wear blue and girls should wear pink.


answered 01 Oct '09, 14:26

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It's a social construct, not a biological one, so it's not going to occur to them until they learn it from others. That probably won't happen until a bit later in life, when family members or friends start commenting on the colour choices.

For newborns, the colours are really for the comfort of the adults surrounding him/her. In our case, we didn't find out the gender of our baby in advance, so we ended up with a lot of beige, yellow, and brown clothes in gender-neutral styles. For the first couple of months until our son outgrew them and started wearing more "boyish" stuff, about a third of people who didn't know him already (strangers, old friends we hadn't seen in years, etc) would say "What a cute little girl" and were quite mortified when corrected. That really hasn't happened since he's been wearing "boy" clothing.


answered 01 Oct '09, 13:33

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I don't think it really matters. I have boys and a girl and they like all colors. My son even puts on princess high heels! My husband would kill me if he knew I was admitting this! Kids don't know that certain things are for boys or girls unless someone tells them.


answered 01 Oct '09, 14:27

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The boy-blue girl-pink is purely a social convention, and a rather new one. Prior to the 20th century, many people felt that pink was a boy color (because it's made from red, a "fierce color").

There's a nice article on this topic in The Straight Dope.


answered 01 Oct '09, 16:42

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Thanks for the article. Really intersting.

(01 Oct '09, 19:52) Tammy ♦♦

My son was obsessed with pink during his 1-2 year age. He preferred EVERYTHING in pink, pink bottles, pink toys, pink foods, etc. We were positive towards him about his fascination with this color and did not reject his preference, but nor did we dress him in pink or get him 'pink-everything'. The only pink clothing he had was a non-feminine pink dress up shirt that he enjoyed.

Towards the end of his 2's he grew more to liking purple. Now (3.5) he's completely over his fascination with pink and is more into a variety of colors. He shows no sign of being feminine in anything he does and is very much into the typical 'boy' things such as sticks, projectiles, trains, trucks, etc.


answered 07 Oct '09, 16:36

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I agree. It doesn't matter. However, my 3-year-old recently said to his grandfather, "Why are you wearing a girl shirt? It's purple and that's a girl colour." He MUST have gotten that from nursery school, but someone must have told him that purple was a "girl" colour. On the flip-side of pink overload for having a girl, think about what I got when my son was born: TONS OF SPORT-, TRUCK-, and CAR-RELATED T-SHIRTS! Alas, none of them pink.


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