Last night our baby was crying for almost 2 hours straight, and we couldn't find anything wrong to fix. We fell in the temptation of giving him a pacifier, and it calmed him down a little (we were starting to feel desperate).

My concern is that he is 6 days old, so I don't think I'm doing him good.

Will it have bad consequences? At what age you can give one to a baby?

asked 06 Oct '09, 12:45

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edited 06 Oct '09, 14:01

Did he fall asleep after you gave him the pacifier?

(06 Oct '09, 14:04) Emi

It calmed him, and he eventually fell asleep. I think the crying fomented more crying, and breaking that cycle was the key

(06 Oct '09, 14:10) JJJ

So your decision was right for you. Just as an added note, you could try removing the pacifier when he is just about to fall asleep, this could help him learn to sleep with out the pacifier in his mouth. Here is why I think that might be better for you; If he always falls alseep with it in his mouth, he could wake up crying if the pacifier is not in his mouth, because they can fall out, and this means you will have to get up and place it back in his mouth until he is able to learn to do that himself!!

(06 Oct '09, 14:57) Emi

Everyone seems to have a different opinion on this. When I took my prenatal classes, our teacher told us to wait at least 10 days, if your breastfeeding, to ensure that they know how to latch properly. Then we had a lactation consultant tell us that we should wait 30 days, to again, make sure that the baby can latch properly. She said that when we give a newborn a pacifier, they learn to suck on something very small and then they don't open their mouth wide enough to get a proper latch on the breast.

But, after learning this, one of our sons ended up in the NICU for a week, and the first thing they do in the NICU is give the infants pacifiers to preserve their suck reflex since most of these babies can't be breastfed right away.

So one of my boys had a pacifier right away and the other we waited about 2 weeks, and I ended up pumping for them and giving them bottles since I had issues with my NICU baby breastfeeding.

I think it comes down to what your feelings are on the matter. If you're trying to breastfeed and are having trouble with it, maybe you should hold off the pacifier. But if the baby is feeding well and gaining weight then you should be ok.

Good luck!! Hopefully you get some sleep soon!


answered 06 Oct '09, 13:54

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I think that like many parenting questions the answer is, "it depends." The American Academy of Pediatrics suggest not giving pacifiers to infants until breastfeeding is established (around 1 month). That being said, I personally feel that if a pacifier helps maintain your family's sanity, it's worth it.

One other thought, if you haven't already done so you might want to check with your pediatrician or lactation consultant and see if your baby is getting enough food. My baby screamed constantly the first couple of days if he wasn't either nursing or had a pacifier in his mouth. It turns out that I had no milk and so that even though we thought he was eating, he wasn't really getting any nutrition.

Ironically, my 6 month old baby now refuses to take a pacifier for any reason.


answered 06 Oct '09, 14:03

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I agree with Kiesa, that pacifier may help your sanity for a little while :)

(06 Oct '09, 14:09) Shannon B

My wife is producing well, so it's not the issue. In fact, yesterday he weighted as much as when he was born (6 days prior), so it's gaining weight perfectly

(06 Oct '09, 14:12) JJJ

oh, yes, it helps with the sanity of course :)

(06 Oct '09, 14:13) JJJ

I'd like to add as an answer a side effect.

He is now opening his mouth very little when we breastfeed him, so it may not be a good idea to start with a pacifier so early on.

We are going to suspend it for now and try to find some other way to calm him when he cries.


answered 07 Oct '09, 12:54

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I think that is smart! Maybe eventually you can retry the pacifier in a few weeks. You do not want to have any problems with breastfeeding, that is worse!

(07 Oct '09, 16:01) Melissa 1

I have three boys, all three were breastfed. The first two didn't care about pacifiers and never took them; the third LOVED his pacifier.

A few thoughts:

I didn't experience any difference breastfeeding the babies with vs. without pacifiers. All three did just fine.

For awhile we had some frustrating nights with a baby that would spit out the pacifier, wake up, and need it to get back to sleep. However, it wasn't any worse than with the babies who just woke up and needed ME to get back to sleep!

Our youngest is one year old now and we've stopped letting him have his pacifier during the day - he only has it in his crib. We've had no problem with that at all - he just doesn't seem to care when he's awake. So I wouldn't worry too much about weaning a baby off it - nobody is still using a pacifier when they go to kindergarten! :)

Basically I'd say if he likes it and it helps you all get more sleep and have fewer tears, then go ahead and give it to him!


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answered 06 Oct '09, 21:55

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I would suggest reading The Happiest Baby on the Block by Dr. Harvey Karp....He gives excellent ways to calm your fussy baby down. His methods worked really well for our baby, and she was very fussy for the first few months. My husband developed an iphone app, so we would be able to calm our baby down when we were not at home. He created Shush has some built in sounds, like a hair dryer, dish washer, and washing machine. These are all soothing sounds for a baby. Also, what I love, is that you can record your own sounds, I recorded my brother doing a bird noise. My baby just loves it. What also would work, was bouncing with baby on an exercise ball. We would bounce her and play one of the sounds and she would be calmed down in minutes. Hopefully, these might work with your baby.


answered 08 Oct '09, 04:39

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The nurses in the hospital gave my kids one right away. I didn't breastfeed so that might be why. At one year I took it away and said other babies needed them. I never had a problem with them wanting it after that!


answered 06 Oct '09, 14:53

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Hi We gave one to our baby when he was a couple of weeks old, same situation as you, really he wouldnt stop crying but that seemed to soothe him. I have read that some babies are 'sucky' babies and they need something and at this age their thumb often isn't big enough to satisfy this need, and of course often they havent discovered it yet. Some health professionals would receommend the dummy as better than a thumb in some ways (as this can be removed and gradually weaned off) and some studies show that a dummy can decrease the risk of SIDS.

In my experience it's ideal to try to wean a baby off a dummy around 6 months.


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edited 06 Oct '09, 15:29

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Viva remember to back up your facts with references if you can find them. I edited your post to state in my experience vs. in my opinion.

(06 Oct '09, 15:32) Tammy ♦♦

"some studies show that a dummy can decrease the risk of SIDS" - which studies?

(06 Oct '09, 16:07) Scott ♦♦

I have also read in some baby books about pacifiers reducing the risk of SIDS.

Here's an news article, but no studies have actually proven this. It's still being debated and studied.

(06 Oct '09, 17:04) Shannon B
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