My 6 month old son wants to be held all the time, he starts crying in a few minutes when we keep him in his crib with his toys or on the bed. He does that even in the stroller or the car seat.

Any tips on how to get him started on playing on his own?

asked 08 Oct '09, 23:10

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Thanks for all the answers(I wish I could mark them collectively), it helps to know that this is a phase and we are not the only ones going through this. This being our first child makes it all the more difficult I guess.

(09 Oct '09, 14:57) Amit


Have you considered wearing him in a sling? I've used slings with my three kids. Wearing the child lets him be close to you, interact with you and observe what you're doing, while still letting you get things accomplished! My youngest is 12 months old now and I still wear him frequently, both for his pleasure and to simplify my life! Examples of things I find easier with a sling: grocery shopping, quick walks to the mailbox, vacuuming, basic cleaning (wiping counters, etc.) watering the garden, carrying laundry to the laundry room...etc! I also always wear my baby during church services so he can sleep (somehow those always seem to be during nap time!)

I've found the best sling to be an unpadded ring sling. It is the most adjustable/versatile and also usually the cheapest (generally a good one is around $40-60). You can get them all over online. Search Etsy for handmade slings and you'll find lots of moms who make them (myself included.)

Your little one will learn to play on his own, but he LOVES to be with you right now! For my family, using a sling was a great solution that met our child's needs as well as mine.


answered 09 Oct '09, 03:21

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I second this idea--our 6.5 mo son is going through a clingy phase too. We have an Ergo and it's awesome. He can hang out or even sleep, and I can still get some things done. Win-win!

(09 Oct '09, 13:51) BetsyB

I totally agree, as well. I found around 18lbs, my baby got too heavy to carry in the sling. So, I started 'wearing' him in a baby beco carrier.

(22 Nov '09, 18:34) cat_g

I know it is hard, but you have to be patient as your child goes through this stage. I remember being frustrated about this too but it will definitely pass. I would just try to give him floor time or tummy time each day even if you have to be right there with him. Try to show him different toys and get him used to "playing". Have you ever tried one of those play gyms? Those seemed to keep my child occupied during his early months! Good luck!


answered 08 Oct '09, 23:45

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I think the idea of playing on the floor with him is a really good one. Babies learn to play by playing with you!

(09 Oct '09, 04:46) Emily

I think all kids go through this but you cannot give in all the time. If you run everytime they call you will be setting yourself up for disaster. You can tell by their cry whether they are having a legitimate issue or whether they are just bored or mad that you are not paying them 100% attention. Try to only respond when they are having a legitimate issue. The other thing you can do is lead by example - sit on the floor nearby but doing your own thing and show them that its ok to investigate and explore things on their own.


answered 09 Oct '09, 02:17

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It's a phase! Just go along with it for awhile. Pretty soon you can give him finger foods (puffs) and that will entertain him in his stroller.


answered 09 Oct '09, 00:06

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Eventually he will grow out of it. What may help is find a toy or stuffed animal that is HIS toy. Give it to him whenever you hold him, take him out of the house, put him down to sleep. Let him get used to it. Then if he has the toy it may make it easier for you to put him down to play if it is close at hand.

My son, who is also very clingy, as a bear my brother got him when he was born and my daughter has a Snoopy my BIL gave her just after she was born. It was a little bit of a hassle at first to get into the habit of taking the bear or Snoopy with us everywhere, but now, I can send my kids to their grandparents overnight or to a friend's house for a morning without much fuss because each has their special toy with them.


answered 09 Oct '09, 16:07

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Thank you, I am off to see what toy can he cling to :).

(10 Oct '09, 13:47) Amit

If your kids do have a lovie, for crying out loud, don't lose it! After my oldest son had outgrown his need to drag his "blankie" everywhere with him when he was about 3, I carefully washed it, folded it up and put it safely away. In that black-hole every house seems to have where you can guarantee that you'll never see the thing you've put away again. He doesn't even remember that he had a "blankie", but I'm still heartsick 14 years later that it's lost and would trade almost anything I own (short of the deed to my house) to see that paint and grape-juice stained little quilt again.

(05 Mar '10, 05:48) Neen

Every mother has got to make this difficult decision for herself. Instinctively I think we all know the answer. I too struggle with a 7 month old daughter who does not want to sleep in her crib alone until I rock her to sleep. Also, I cannot leave the house til after noon sometimes because she will crawl behind me crying for me to pick her up and be devastated if I'm not holding her all morning long. I think it's just hard and it's supposed to be. We have the most important job in the world, and our payoffs are well adjusted, loved, secure children that feel confident and trust that their parent will be there when they need, or want them.


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